Men generally feel great sexual frustration in their relationship. This is why …
HOW WOMEN LOSE INTEREST IN SEX
Every night that he and his wife go to bed, he hopes and prays that she wants sex. He turns to her but she rejects his advances. A pattern has been established.
Going to bed means you are going to want sex. Going to bed means assuming sex. She knows that sex is a fact. You will only do it if you feel like it, but nothing has been done to make you feel like it. This is boring for her and frustrating for him. Worse yet … he continually reduces his interest in sex.
TOO LITTLE AND TOO LATE
A big mistake men make is waiting until bed to begin foreplay. That gets boring for women. She doesn’t want sex to be assumed. And what’s worse, it makes her feel objectified; she feels that she is perceived only as a body, not as a person.
This is what most men don’t understand … You can’t wait until you go to bed to start seducing your woman. Once in bed, it is too late.
Instead, you should always be seducing her. The seduction continues all the time. This is done with “Mental foreplay”. Throughout the day, you should use mental foreplay to keep her at least “warm” for what may happen next.
This concept of “mental foreplay” is based on three important truths:
- Women want foreplay
- Women’s sexuality is (almost) entirely mental
- Everything between you and your wife is sex
WOMEN CRAVE FOR PRIOR GAME!
You’ve heard this before. It has been said countless times. Everybody knows it, but very few men do. Women complain that their man is going to have sex without even turning her on.
But here’s the key takeaway from this article, if you don’t get anything else, get this – don’t wait until you go to bed to start foreplay! I’ll give you some ideas on how to do this in a minute.
FOR WOMEN, SEX IS (ALMOST) COMPLETELY MENTAL
It’s been said … for men, sex is sex, but for women, sex is everything else. There is a lot of truth in that. For a woman, sex should include much more than just intercourse. For her, it is very mental and emotional. Consider the fact that men download pornography while women read 400-page romance novels.
This does not mean that women are not horny. They are horny. More precisely, they are very sexual. More than men, and much more than most men can understand. Sexuality for a woman is of vital importance.
Of course, we are considering the mentally and emotionally healthy woman (who you should limit yourself to). Some women with very low self-esteem or emotional trauma will not respond in a healthy way, even though deep down they are really sexual. It’s just that they will behave in ways that seem to defy logic.
EVERYTHING IS SEX
When I teach this concept to couples, women get it right away and men scratch their heads. So if this seems over the top, follow my logic below.
First, let’s define some terms here. Most people think of foreplay, followed by sex. But in reality, foreplay is sex. When people use the term sex, they are generally referring to intercourse. But intercourse is just one of the many things included in sex.
All you and your wife do to each other while naked in the bedroom is sex. But the fact is, you don’t actually need to be naked and you don’t have to be in the bedroom. You could be petting her while they’re at the movies. So really sex is all you and her do to stimulate each other’s genitals.
Moreover, you don’t have to stimulate her genitals. You could be sitting with her in a restaurant and just ordering her to have an instant orgasm on command (yes, it’s possible … stage hypnotists do this all the time). Orgasms are sex. So sex is basically anything that stimulates her sexually.
Of course, there are many things that can stimulate you sexually. You could tell her a sexual fantasy and stimulate her sexually. So simply narrating a fantasy is sex.
You could be telling her how you are going to make passionate love to her when you bring her home. And it stimulates her sexually. So simply mentally preparing her for sex is sex.
There are many ways to mentally prepare her for sex. You mentally prepare her for sex when you tell her that she looks beautiful to you. So by definition that could be considered sex.
I could go on and on, but you get the point … basically everything is sex!
MENTAL SEX
All the things discussed above are done using “Mental Foreplay”. Inside the bedroom, foreplay is physical. Outside the bedroom it must be crazy.
A woman once said: “If a man can make love to my mind, he can have me.” She is articulating the mental aspects of female sexuality.
This is what I mean as “mental sex”. This goes back to my concept that everything is sex. Furthermore, foreplay is sex, so it follows that “mental foreplay” is in fact “mental sex.”
Going back to the top, we see that mental sex begins with seduction.
SEDUCTION CONTINUES ALL THE TIME
At all times you should be seducing your woman in some way. It can be subtle, it can be obvious. But it must always be happening.
Women love to be seduced. They love how it feels. They feel beautiful and sexy. They feel wanted. They get to feel all the things that women love to feel. And it results in them wanting to celebrate being a sensual woman.
Even in an ongoing relationship, a woman wants to be seduced by her man. Always keep an air of sensuality. When your woman thinks of you, she must think of being seduced.
EXAMPLE OF MENTAL PRIORITY
You can even do this when the two of you are apart. A great way is to text him. They can be innocent messages with sexual innuendo or they can be blatantly sexual. Below is a generic example. It starts out innocent and turns blatant.
Let’s say you’ve been dating your wife for 3 months, and you’ve been giving more pleasure to everything she’s ever known. They were together Thursday night and they are going to be together again Saturday night. On Friday, while she’s at work and you’re at work, you text her:
You: Hello beautiful. You looked so beautiful last night.
Her: 🙂 You looked pretty sexy too!
You: You felt so good in my arms, Baby.
Her: It felt wonderful to be held by you, baby.
You: I can’t wait to see you tomorrow, Baby.
Her: I can’t wait to see you too! I still haven’t decided what to wear!
You: I can’t wait to see what you’ve selected. You always look so beautiful to me.
She: You always make me feel beautiful, Baby.
You: You always make me want you so much, Baby.
She: I want you too, Baby, desperately. I’ve been thinking about you all day!
You: Have you been thinking about how much you want me to make love to you?
She: Yes! You: Tell me how much you need me to make love to you.
Her: Honey, I need you so passionately to make love to me!
This is very easy to do and fun. Imagine how much more fun work would be if both you and her received messages like this during the day. And imagine how great your date will be that night, especially if you keep the mental foreplay ALL day and into the night.
This is a powerful thing. And I’ve only met a handful of men who do this kind of thing with their woman, so when you do, you’ll instantly cut yourself off from all the other boring men in your life.
A seduced woman can become sexually aroused as fast as a man. In fact, even faster when she has been continually and appropriately seduced with Mental Foreplay.
DESTINATION POINTS:
- Never force your woman to do anything sexual, instead bring out her sexuality in her.
- Never push your woman to do something, instead make your woman want it mentally.
- Direct her mind and let her body beg to follow her.
- Make her hungry, and then when you feed her, satisfy her beyond what she knew she was capable of, leaving her even hungrier for next time.